I feel like I’ve wrecked things for my husband.
He’s at a job he really dislikes. They treat him poorly, overwork him and underpay him.
I hate his job. It keeps him late and when he does come home he’s a zombie, so he doesn’t have time for me or the kids. We have enough trouble keeping things together in our marriage without being able to spend any time together.
He told me once that he felt God wanted him there.
Someone I respect told me that God wouldn’t want him where he was miserable.
I think I took that to mean that because I’m miserable God doesn’t want him there.
My husband applied at a place I suggested. I think I may have even mentioned something about that it may be from God. My husband is a new Christian.
He went through their preliminary testing with full expectation to hear back from them.
The disappointment of that is making going to his miserable job even worse for him.
I feel like it’s my fault.
I think I maybe presumed to know God’s will for my husband.
Now how do I undo that?
Maybe I just need to shut up and listen.
I’ve been a Christian for over 30 years. My husband has been a Christian for 1 year. That big difference of numbers only means I know more scripture than he does right now. It’s not like God’s going to talk to me more than He will to Brad. Brad is the head of the house. And now that he’s a Christian, he is the spiritual head of the house as well.
What have I been doing. Have I been his helper? Have I been his supporter? Have I been his cheerleader?
I have been trying to get my way. I’ve been complaining about how I don’t have time with him and do all the parenting myself, instead of supporting him through the crap he has to go through everyday to keep a roof over our heads and food in our fridge.
Who’s making the bigger sacrifice here?
It’s not me, is it?
I don’t know what to do now.